Arranged marriages: not such a bad idea after all.
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09/28/2006
michelle "the most" m. says:
To follow up on my "Big Date Saturday Night" topic of conversation, eventually I decided I was thinking entirely too much about the date when really it was the guy that asked me out responsibility. That was my first mistake. Guys do not have the ability to plan ahead of time. I knew this already but I figured (incorrectly) that he would make an exception to the rule in order to impress me...it HAS been known to happen..... not frequently however. So anyway his plan for the date ended up being me driving 40 miles to Carlsbad to his place because "he cleaned it for me." Then the plan was to eat and drink. So I left a very fun pub crawl early Saturday afternoon to go see this guy. He showed me his place. It was a bachelor pad. No big surprise there. We went to eat and then we went to drink. It was a decent time although I was not blown away by his chivalry or charm. Basically he was....a regular dude. Can't say that I didn't set myself for disappointment since I had such high hopes that I would be swept off my feet. So it was really my own fault. But here's the thing: after having several beers I went back to his place to sober up before driving home. I left his place at about 3am (get your mind out of the gutter, it was strictly a PG night) and then.... I never heard from him! He never checked to make sure I made it home okay. Even my guy friends tell me to text them to let them know I got home safely if I'm driving home late at night. After 3 full days of not a single correspondence from him and a couple glasses of wine, I texted him. He wrote me back and eventually it came out that he was waiting to hear from me because "he wasn't sure if I was that into him"!!!
Seriously, dating is too much work. I've since come to realization that arranged marriages may not be a bad idea after all......
09/28/2006
Edenista M. says:
Yep, he definitely loses points for being more preoccupied with his own ego than your safety...Sounds like he's the proactive type^_^ You never know though he might turn into a charming prince all over again on the second date, if there's one...
09/28/2006
Kinsee M. says:
I agree. If I could just get that part of my life squared away I could concentrate on the more important things in life--you know, like curing world hunger and figuring out how to get birth control put in the public water system.
09/28/2006
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09/29/2006
michelle "the most" m. says:
Thanks Andrew. I love getting the male perspective. I fully admit that I set myself up for disaster by having high expectations. And I can see how my disappointment showed and led him to believe I wasn't interested in him. In my defense however, I kissed him therefore he should have taken the obvious hint that I was interested. If I wasn't interested I would have been out the door without a second look. Being female, I felt the need to analyze the no followup call situation. My imagination went wild and began to drive me crazy. I had to text and find out! No really, I HAD to know the reason. Your input has helped me understand why he didn't call me and I can return to being a rational well-adjusted adult :)
09/29/2006
L a r i s a H. says:
Being too chickensh*t to call you is no excuse for a lack of courtesy and concern. You said it, even your guy friends want to know you got home ok.
09/29/2006
Edenista M. says:
Larisa: you took the words out of my fingertips!
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10/01/2006
Mike L. says:
Ok, arrange marriage sucks. You might wind up with this guy as partner for life. So that might not be good if this is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with.
In all honesty, I was thinking that he was playing hard to get. Bad move and probably won't score any points with that text. Too bad, because it seemed you have a different expectation and he have a different perspective.
Kinsee, curing world hunger is easier....
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